Inner man and woman

According to Plato, once upon a time, people used to be hermaphrodites with their feminine and masculine energies fused into one!

Each person was a union of feminine and masculine, creating a beautiful combination of Yin & Yang! One day, Zeus because he was afraid of their power of wholeness, he decided to split them in half, and since then, each of them has been trying to find their other half! I believe that this half is not somewhere outside of us but inside!

The split happened inside when our inner man and woman stopped loving each other and lost their communication. The inner man became the dictator residing in our mind, and our woman got suppressed and could only express herself through random emotional explosions, different types of addictions, and manipulation.

How can we heal ourselves now?

A part of our self-development process is to heal those two so that they can love each other again and bring balance and peace to our lives.

What is the masculine and what the feminine?

The masculine is the direction, the structure, the strategy and the determination. The feminine is our connection to the body through our senses, emotions, capacity to let go, and our need to become one with the other.

When these two internal energies are clean from distortions, our inner woman loves to let the inner man guide her, and he loves guiding her to the best path for her, which is always “The path of the Spirit”!

In a few words, our inner woman loves surrendering to our inner man because she can totally trust his guidance. She can trust his guidance because it comes directly from the Spirit! This is the most important secret! The inner woman loves surrendering, relaxing and following the inner man when he is connected to the Divinity.

She is the divine energy flowing inside us and everywhere around, and He is the vehicle that can give direction to this divine energy.

If the inner couple has an unhealthy relationship, the person lives in an internal dictatorship with the dominator, the inner man and the subordinate, the inner woman.

For example, a self-demanding, perfectionist and judgemental inner man cannot lead his inner woman where the Spirit wants; in this case, she cannot relax and trust to surrender because she is already submitted under his authority.

A relationship of dominance/submission always has side effects…

I will share here two examples of these side effects:
A constantly thinking person with many rigid beliefs who lives his life in a very structured and almost “perfect” order submits his inner woman because he almost blocks his energy. In this case, usually, the inner woman (energy) will finally explode through a sickness.

A person who has developed a strong control system based on fear and his inner man is constantly alert does not give space to his inner woman to relax or even enjoy. In this example, the inner woman might find moments to express herself through different addictions such as food, cigarettes, drugs, alcohol, sex, etc.

How are all these expressed externally to our relationships?

Starting from the point that there is nothing outside without reflecting our inner world, I would say that whatever we have inside it is projected out with our partners.

If you are a woman with a healthy inner man who can direct you according to your Spirit, you will attract the same man externally, and you will be delighted to follow him because you can trust his direction!

If you are a man who can feel your energy (body, emotions, sensations, etc.) and sense the best path to express it, then you will externally manifest a woman who will yearn to surrender to your direction.

My personal feeling of these two:
The healthy relationship of my inner yin-yang is like dancing tango with a man who is connected to the Spirit, and he can move and direct me in dance according to the Spirit’s will. This dance feels like dancing in paradise!
The unhealthy relationship feels like dancing with a man not connected to the Spirit but his Ego, and he takes me on a journey of self-pleasure and self show-off!

In the first case, I can easily surrender to the dance; in the second, I have two options, submit and look forward to the end of the dance, or interrupt, politely, the journey and avoid any submission!