Sexual and free

Dear women, embracing your sexual nature has nothing to do with the societal labels imposed upon you, labels you may still choose to carry!

If you are a woman with the natural flow of sexual energy within your body, you are an authentic natural woman, in your authentic state of being. You are not a "slut", or any other label our patriarchal society loves to employ. You are a liberated, untamed woman who has stepped out of a society founded on a fear of wild femininity.

What happens when we cannot enjoy our wild sexuality with our partners?

Many women I work with share that, despite enjoying their sexuality with their bodies, nature, creativity, and life, they struggle to experience the same enjoyment with their partners.

Allow me to share my personal journey on this matter:

Throughout my life, particularly since discovering tantra, I faced indirect "bullying" from many partners concerning my sexuality.

My Tantric work woke up my sexuality as a free, vital expression that I could apply in different activities in life. I was feeling vibrant and sexual while dancing, swimming, eating, walking and more.

This made my partners enter into a conflict with their masculinity, observing me being sexual in my dance, work, and nature. It is as if they were competing with my dance or even the pleasure that a mango was giving in my mouth!

They slowly started demanding sex from a place of neediness, restricting my free expression of sexuality. The more they "needed" me sexually, the more I was closing down my sexuality to them.

This narrative confused me, leading me to believe that I had a problem... I was closing myself off to men and struggling with my sexuality.

I took nearly all the responsibility for not desiring sex in relationships, attempting various methods to "heal" myself.

While some methods worked temporarily, I would fall back into the same patterns, thinking it was solely my fault.

For many years, across different relationships, I embarked on a healing journey, healing my sexuality, my childhood traumas, and my ancestral information, and I did beautiful work with myself. Regrettably, my partners did little as we all believed the issue was mine alone. These situations often concluded in painful breakups, with the misconception that I was a rigid, non-sexual woman, and they were victims of my rejection!

Men and women's wild and free sexuality

I believe that when a woman liberates her sexuality, she becomes a whole sexual being yearning to express her sexuality in everything that she does! Sometimes, the essence of this free sexuality might fear the Patriarchal subconscious programming of men, and they might act unconsciously by trying to repress her and claim her sexuality only for them!

In essence, when a man tries to suppress a wild sexual woman from his unconscious "macho" programs or when he seeks sex to substitute the lack of affection not received from his mother, the woman can totally close down to him. On the other hand, if he has healed and liberated his sexuality from patriarchal conditioning and his desires come from a space of absolute presence and not neediness, her fire cannot stop burning for him!

Both partners engage in healing

Both partners need to address their personal issues and do individual introspective work.

If both partners don't engage in the work of healing, it can lead to a significant imbalance of consciousness in the relationship. While one partner takes responsibility for healing and growing, the other might remain unconscious. This imbalance may result in differences in maturity, consciousness, and vibration, hindering communication and ultimately leading to separation.