Why relationships do not work?
Relationships come and go, but you always stay…
We all yearn to have a healthy relationship where we feel loved, accepted, and happy.
Unfortunately, we usually create relationships where we feel almost the opposite.
We constantly try to change our partners, and they try to change us!
Today, relationships are like a field of constant compromise where we let time pass by, hoping that things will be different one day. Days, months, and even years pass, and things do not get better; sometimes, they get even worse!
What is it that we do wrong? Why do we not achieve the relationship of our dreams?
I could write a whole book on this subject, but in a few words, I will share with you my point of view in steps:
The reason that we are in a relationship:
Why do you need to be in a relationship? Is it because you want to fulfill your lack of love for yourself? Is it to avoid the feeling of loneliness? Is it because of your family and society’s demands? Or what is it?
The reason is the first and most important step! Very few relationships are formed from a healthy space of unconditional love where the individual feels fulfilled and yearns only to share the space of love they already feel about themselves with the other person.
The need to change our partners the same way our parents changed us:
It is challenging to accept the other person the way he or she is!
In the same way that our parents and society never accepted us when we were children, we also do not accept our partners. We continue the exact behavior of our parents with our partners. We try to mold them and make them fit the conditions of our beliefs and satisfy the subconscious expectations of our system.
Lack of polarities:
Playing with opposite polarities (regardless of the gender you are in) in a relationship is fundamental to maintaining chemical attraction and fulfilling sexual life!
Whether you are in a relationship with the same or the opposite gender, creating a contrast of polarities is very important if you want to keep the fire and the passion high!
A lack of polarities destroys the chemistry, the passion, and the sexual satisfaction in the relationship. When you do not dance between the polarities of the feminine and masculine, you do not have an intimate relationship; you are in a friendship, calling it a relationship.
Of course, many other factors could influence and contribute to a more successful relationship, but these can be some of the most important!
And always remember: the more you heal and evolve, the more chances you have to create the relationship of your dreams!
